[note: this post was published 6/12/2012; however the WordPress ghosts backdated it to 6/4. Go figure!]
Picking your social media friends
If you are active in the social media, you probably get a lot of chances to follow back on Twitter, respond to a freind request on Facebook, a request to connect on LinkedIn, or a notification that someone has added you to a circle on Google+. How do you choose who to accept and who to engage with?
I wrote a post about Twitter last year, Why I am not following you back on Twitter, that became one of my most read posts ever. A lot of my personal Rules of Engagement in that post apply across the spectrum of platforms. I generally don’t reciprocate if you:
- don’t bother building even a minimal user profile
- have a “red flag” phrase in your profile
- have an extremist agenda
- have x-rated profile picture or no profile picture
- seldom, if ever, update, your stream
- are an obvious spammer or scammer
- won’t even speak to me in real life
- are a troll and proud of it
In addition to the Twitter piece, here are a few more of my personal rules Rules of Engagement. These are just my personal preferences, and in no way should they be considered guidelines for you:
Facebook I generally don’t follow back someone who does not have the remotest connection to me in real life. I don’t think using someone else’s picture as your profile picture is cool; they don’t call it FACEbook for nothing. I don’t want to see Marilyn Monroe or Wiley Coyote – I want to see you. If I can post my real picture, so can you.
LinkedIn Here’s a good post on 5 ways you stink at Linkedin from the UnMarketing blog that points out some annoying behaviors. I am not big on connecting with my local competitors, either. It gives them first level access to my clients.
You don’t have to add anyone to a circle who adds you on Google+. I generally try to figure out why someone added me, and then add them to the appropriate circle(s). If there is no connection, I put them in a circle called “don’t know” which I periodically check for good content creators. I also periodically delete and recreate the circle, leaving those in it un-circled. The un-circled can still see my public posts, so I really don’t have to circle them in the first place. Of course, if the folks in my circles break my Rules of Engagement, they can be un-circled or in, extreme cases, blocked. If you are new to Google+ this must all sound pretty crazy. There’s more on basic Google+ management HERE, and I also highly recommend Guy Kawasaki’s e-book, What the Plus! Google+ for the rest of us for a better understanding of G+ culture and engagement; and it’s a great book for Google+ beginners.
I didn’t really have the intention of ranting in this post. We all have time constraints, and we all have the right to a somewhat pleasant life, free from time sucks and annoying people. Make your own rules of engagement. Control your social media life. You will be a happier person for it.