Facebook for me has become as cluttered as my desk drawer, packed with things I don’t use, need to find, or just need to clean out. On Facebook, I have friends I don’t know, have no idea of the context of the relationship, and have probably never interacted with; apps I haven’t used in over a year; and many “fan” pages I liked but can’t remember why. Whatever your reason, you may want to unfriend some folks.
Cleaning house in Facebook is not as easy as it used to be. There is no mass unfriending or unliking. It’s a rather tedious process to go through almost 3000 friends, but here is the easiest way I found to cull the herd (scroll down for a short screencast): Continue reading →
It started as a phishing scam or other malware, at least for me, when I was offered an app to let me see who had unfriended me on Facebook. The solicitations looked scammy, and I ignored them. I found out the other day that there IS a Facebook Unfriend Finder app. The app’s page has about 10,500 Likes, and from my testing, the app does what it says – lets you know when someone unfriends you (it also advises you when one of your friends closes his/her FB account). Could this little app change the way we use Facebook?
Enter the therapist
How does it make you feel when someone unfriends you on Facebook? If it’s someone you hardly know or don’t know, your response is probably meh. But what if it’s a close business associate, or long time real life friend? What feelings, what pain, what anger wells up at the thought of someone you love, or someone you have been quietly stalking on Facebook, suddenly turning off that friendship?
Don’t murder me, I beg of you, dont murder me. Please, dont murder me.~Grateful Dead
We probably all have a few weirdos, trolls and stalkers on our friends list. I know that from now on I will carefully consider the implications of the Unfriend Finder app before making the decision to unfriend. I will assume that everyone is using the app. I may come face to face with them be confronted. At a meeting the other day I sat across the table from someone who had unfriended me that morning. Our relationship had changed. It impacted the meeting, and he probably never realized it. We are seeing more and more stories of violence and murder over Facebook relationships. Facebook relationships are being cited in criminal and civil (i.e. divorce) cases.
Do you use the app? If you didn’t know it was there, will you look it up and installed? How will you handle being unfriended? Your comments are welcomed!
Everybody wants FriendsÂ – Isn’t that what FaceBook is all about?
We want to connect with old friends and new friends, make business and personal contacts, find people who share our interests and be noticed by the interesting friends of our friends……..Â Then
Why can’t we be friends?
Why can’t we we can’t be friends
Because you don’t have a picture in your profile!Â Why do you think they call it FACEbook?
You bug me about your exploits in Mafia Wars and try to get me involved. Don’t get me wrong, I have no problem with your enjoying Mafia Wars.Â I just don’t want to play, thank you.
You are promoting your business just a little too heavily on your wall, and thus, my news feed.Â If i want to know more about your business, I’ll join your Business (fan) Page.Â Oh, you don’t have a page?Â Hmmm, I see.
You probably aren’t, but it looks like you are up to no good. I don’t know you and you are asking questions I am uncomfortable answering, evenÂ for my friends.
You don’t have a very firm grasp of the differences between witty, snarky, sarcastic, and vicious.
I really find it hard to believe this, but you are inviting people from my friends list to friend you, and you have no connection to them at all.
This whole social media thing is about engagement, not interruption and annoyance.Â Can’t we all be nice andÂ just be friends?