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Father’s Day Thoughts

Originally posted Father’s Day, 2012

1959 Mercury Monterey

1959 Mercury Monterey – Ours was metallic green (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

My father died of cancer when I was 17.  I remember the family vacations in that big 1959 Mercury Monterey, and I remember being shown how to take things apart and fix them.  I remember the family times and holidays.  I remember the prolonged illness and the changes it caused in my mother, as I was slipping into my rebellious years.

About this time every year I wonder how my life would be different now had my father lived.  One thing’s for sure – he worked hard and sacrificed for his family and probably never got a word of direct thanks for that. So here we are approaching Father’s Day, yet another commercialized holiday.  Maybe for this year, you could forget about buying a tie or a gadget for Dad, and sit down with him for a few quiet, serious moments and give him a big THANK YOU.

Another piece of Memphis history gone

Early 20th Century Snowdrift Shortening painted billboard on the west side of 1661 Lamar

Snowdrift billboard

has now been painted over in bright blue.

Facebook Unfriend Finder and Unfriending – Revisited

[UPDATE ON THE UNFRIEND FINDER FACEBOOK APP – May 17, 2013
This was posted by the developer of the app today:
The social network asked the removal of the extension because it violates its terms.
Specifically, Unfriend Finder injects unauthorized code into the social networks’s source code in order to alter the way that the webpages are rendered in users browsers
It adds unauthorized links to users’ bookmark sections;
And posts unauthorized notifications regarding which users have “unfriended” the user or “ignored” his or her friend requests.

I cannot enforce this and will cease the developement of this Extension.
Unfriend Finder has been around for 3 years, and many of you enjoyed this, but it cannot go further.

Thank you for your support.]

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FB unfriendLast week, on Facebook, I asked this question: Would you unfriend a Facebook “friend” who won’t speak to you or even acknowledge your presence in public?”  The comments reflected a wide range of feelings about the nature of Facebook friendship: Friend vs. acquaintance, mood at the time of encounter, context, setting, intentions – responses indicating that Facebook relationships, even with people you have never met IRL (in real life) can be complex and emotional.  Perhaps the best thought out comment was from my IRL friend, Roy Barnes:

 “Here’s a flowchart that I may or may not use: are they a friend or an acquaintance? If friend, try to say something to them IRL. If an acquaintance, was it a shun (not returning friendly gestures) or just narcissistic obliviousness? If former, unfriend. If latter, flip a coin.”

Last year I posted about the then new and somewhat controversial Unfriend Finder Facebook App, asking if it was somehow helpful to know who had unfriended you, or if it could be stressful or even dangerous to have that knowledge.  If you want to give the app a try, you can find and install it HERE. The app displays like this: Continue reading

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