Category Archives: SWL

What impact will the Facebook unfriend finder app have on our FB relationships?

unfriend finderIt started as a phishing scam or other malware, at least for me, when I was offered an app to let me see who had unfriended me on Facebook.  The solicitations looked scammy, and I ignored them.  I found out the other day that there IS a Facebook Unfriend Finder app.  The app’s page  has about 10,500 Likes, and from my testing, the app does what it says – lets you know when someone unfriends you (it also advises you when one of your friends closes his/her FB account).  Could this little app change the way we  use Facebook?

Enter the therapist

How does it make you feel when someone unfriends you on Facebook?  If it’s someone you hardly know or don’t know, your response is probably meh.  But what if it’s a close business associate, or long time real life friend?  What feelings, what pain, what anger wells up at the thought of someone you love, or someone you have been quietly stalking on Facebook, suddenly turning off that friendship?

[stextbox id=”black” image=”null”]Don’t murder me, I beg of you, dont murder me. Please, dont murder me.~Grateful Dead[/stextbox]

We probably all have a few weirdos, trolls and stalkers on our friends list.  I know that from now on I will carefully consider the implications of  the Unfriend Finder app  before making the decision to unfriend.    I will assume that everyone is using the app.  I may come face to face with them be  confronted.   At a meeting the other day I sat across the table from someone who had unfriended me that morning.  Our relationship had changed.  It impacted the meeting, and he probably never realized it.  We are seeing more and more  stories of violence and murder over Facebook relationships.  Facebook relationships are being cited in criminal and civil (i.e. divorce) cases.

Do you use the app?  If you didn’t know it was there, will you look it up and installed?  How will you handle being unfriended?  Your comments are welcomed!

Sometimes I think the Luddites have a point

Rage Against the Machine

According to Wikipedia,  the Luddites were a group of 19th-century English textile artisans who protested against the changes produced by the Industrial Revolution, which they felt were leaving them without work and changing their way of life.  They could get wild at times, sabotaging  and destroying the looms and machinery that displaced them.  The movement was named after General Ned Ludd or King Ludd, a mythical figure who, like Robin Hood, was reputed to live in Sherwood Forest.

The Luddite movement has continued in various forms right into the present.  And some lots of days I can really relate.  Like when I wake to 541 items in my Google Reader, scores of important Tweets from close friends, 2 or 3 screens of emails,  and scores of irresistible updates on my Facebook home screen.  And then the phone starts ringing.  We love our electronic toys.  Toddlers can manipulate iPads;  Baby Boomers, challenged for years with programming their VCRs, are texting before breakfast.  Grandma is Skyping with her grand children.  Everyone is a geek and/or a social media guru.  Millions of us have become homemade journalists, posting our wittiness and brilliance to our blogs for all the world to see.  We’ve got to keep up with all, because if we don’t,  we shall perish.  …Or not.   Continue reading

Curating great stuff with Delicious

For a while last year it looked like we might lose  Delicious, the King of online bookmarking and my favorite curation tool, as owner Yahoo did some strategic re-arranging.  Delicious was bought by the founders of Youtube and is now rocking on as good as ever.

So what is Delicious?

Think about how you arrange files on your computer:  perhaps that MS Word document is filed in a sub-sub directory of my documents like  C:\….\MyDocuments\business\correspondence\john_smith_ltr.doc.  Delicious allows you to organize Internet content in the same way.   If you find a blog post you want to save, you simply paste the link into delicious, assign one or more keywords and the article is saved to a specific URL – for example:  will take you to the articles I think are interesting enough to save.  There are lots of possibilities for sharing with this simple format, and as a bonus, Delicious lets you generate an RSS feed for the sub-directory.  Wanna subscribe to my social media saves? just go to   Watch this screencast to see how easy Delicious is to use.

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